Personal History: Fall 2005

The remainder of our courtship is so different depending on which one of us you talk to. James told me at the end of August that we were on the same page for getting married and we really wanted to get married on November 11 (11/11 so we wouldn't forget). So in my mind I'm thinking we will have about 2 1/2 months to put everything together, tough but totally doable. James did not want to do any official planning until he had officially proposed, and so I waited...and waited. I did get the green light to check out reception halls and I went out the same day and looked and booked (paid a non-refundable deposit) on a place. Weeks went by and James wouldn't even talk about getting married, I was freaking out. I wondered if he had a change of heart, but didn't want to tell me. I panicked, I would either have an awesome party at the hall to celebrate my life as a single woman or I would be having a reception. I had told my Mom about the upcoming wedding and in preparation she had bought tons of pies and had begun her mother of the bride duties. Both of us, were a little worried. On September 30th (yeah, that's right, the END of September+) I was at bunko night and stewing over my plight. I couldn't tell my friends about what was going on, and I was so frustrated. I made up my mind on my way home that I would give James an ultimatum, tell me we are getting married and start planning with me or break up. I was very determined and pretty peeved. I called James on my way home and asked him to come by my house. He was out with his friend and they were having a great time, with some "girls." I was so beside myself, but I decided to relax and discuss things rationally when he came over. 1 1/2 hours later I heard a knock at my door, that was enough time to get me mad all over again. I would end it at the door and I wouldn't bother with drama. I got to the door and there was James with a huge bouquet of roses. I started to cry, I was still pissed but glad he came to apologize. He handed me the flowers and dropped the fresh packet, while retrieving the packet he pulled out my ring and asked me to marry him. All the frustration disappeared and I was so shocked. I was so sure that he was done with me, I didn't expect the proposal at all. We kissed and celebrated!